May...
I used to read your posts in Newcomers and saw that you had moved here

I have to say....

the anger toward the OW is misguided

she owed nothing to you
of course she would be dismissive

I would too if some crazy woman emailed me full of accusations

(which is what I am sure you sounded like...an insecure, crazy woman)

the physical violence is NEVER Ok...no matter how you try to justify it

and

as the mom to a beautiful girl with special needs
and
having survived several miscarriages, I am both sickened and appalled by your wishes on her

how dare you assume that having a special needs child is somehow a burden

you need to get a grip
watch you anger
and look at yourself in the mirror