Did she actually tell you she wanted to work on the R and go slowly, or is that what you said?
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So I kind of validated this & probed by saying, 'I realise now just how broken our R had become & that all's I wanted right now was to build our R slowly brick by brick, without any pressure or outside influence. I said that I wasn't ready to be full on & jump back into our R and that I'd like to take babysteps & take it slowly. My W seemed really happy about this and later on she flirted with me in bed & we made love. (YC the kissing was amazing, so much desire on both sides for each other).
Maybe you assumed she agreed with you? Maybe I missed it. At any rate, don't let your feelings lead you down this road only to be disappointed again, b/c you will read too much into what she says or doesn't say.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
