I'm not afraid of anything Barb. I think things are moving along romantically. We have a great deal of physical affection expressed between us, if we didn't I'd be concerned. Now to say that I'm "arguing the Asian thing to death" is just plain wrong. I'm respecting the culture the lady is from. One of the things she told me she likes so much about me is that I am respectful towards her...as well as affectionate. It's interesting because in my online dating experiences the word I heard over and over again from Filipino women when you talk, message, or have coffee with them is "respect". SDA lady and I have discussed the differences between dating here and dating in the Philippines, she knows where I want to go and I will probably go there on Monday when we go out again. I think she's pretty much there anyway. I went for it after a month and she asked if we could kiss on the cheek for a while longer, I agreed. In her culture they date at a painfully slow pace. That's what she knows, that's her point of reference. She has never dated a non-Filipino and even that was over 21 years ago. When I told her that here couples are often in bed after dating for a month she was horrified, "that's why there's so much venereal disease here!" She's also horrified that on The Bachelor he kisses more than one woman, "disgusting" were her words! So, are we "friends", I hope so! But I've never had a friend touch me the way she does or say the caring things she does to me. Honestly, I'm happy right now. I believe she's in this all the way but it's a process and we will certainly be discussing that process again. Whether it will all work out, who knows. We both have needs and we need to figure out how to meet them together and, again, that's a process.
