"I did tell her that any accusations of manipulation of the children is dispicable and how dare she say such a thing."
No that was the wrong way to approach it. All she probably heard was you calling her despicable. I know it was her accusations you found despicable, but nonetheless all she heard was that word coming from you.
Here's something that made things easier for me when my W would start spewing her nonsense. When she would start her rant, I would look at her like one of those crazy people you see wandering the street just muttering to themselves. I would actually shake my head and pity her like I would those people. It made things so much less personal and even was laughable at times.
When she started to say things that were totally off base, I did the hand thing and told hit her with the truth dart. Start asserting yourself and you won't find yourself run over all the time.
The best way to defuse a bully is to stand up to them. Not fight them, but hold your ground.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
