When she accused me of financil abuse this is how I reacted. First, I listened to get an idea where she was coming from.
Second, my reply was that I turned a blind eye to the finances and I was sorry. In the last six weeks I am beginning to understand why money was such an issue. I told her that I cannot go back in time, but I am appreciating that we have been able to talk about finances without it turning into a fight. Since the two of us have been working on the bills together the financial situation is improving and we are now cought up.
Also said since we have separate accounts I don't like having to write a check to her, it feels like I am giving an allowance. I have no problem with the money.
