Well since I have been talking about the good things figure I have to let you in on the bad things as well.
W did not meet with a L on 3/26, she changed the date to 3/27. Told me it was just a consulation and cost her $150. Found out when we were going through the check book on Friday Night.
Everyone going through this should have a consultation with an attorney. It is what it is.
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I received the e-mail on Friday accusing me of manipulating the children in order for her to stay.
Her feelings are her feelings, and she probably does feel that way. You suddenly changed just when she had made a decision, now that makes her decision more difficult to follow through with.
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On Friday I asked her why she was acting like the way she was, she said that the L told her that I was committing "financial abuse" with the way we were handling finances. When she thought about she became livid. I simply listened and validated.
Were you committing financial abuse? How did you validate what she was saying? What did you say?
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I know that if I stop doing my 180's I will be much worse off. For once, I feel like the changes I have made in my life are going to make me a better person and father. It is so much easier when I am doing this for me and not to keep her from leaving.
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I also know that if I attempt to analyze what she is doing or how she feels my head will explode.
Anxiety is an issue with me, I am waiting for the other proverbial foot to drop with this.
I will continue to take things day by day and keep on trying to distance myself emotionally from my W. However, I will still be active with the kids and house.
Does anyone have any other suggestions?
Stay out of her head.
Have a great day, Holding Steady
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
