It's going to hurt no matter what. This takes time to get through and you have to feel the hurt but not let the hurt control your life.

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LRT does not work for him.
I'm not sure I understand this. What do you mean?

LRT is for you, it allows you to begin to heal, to get away from the emotion and reactivity. From reading your posts it sounds like just what you need right now as you are all over the place.

Cadet always gives the advice: Divorce means he wants space. Give him space. All of the other stuff might just be H's attempts to assuage his guilt.

Work on you, You are the only actor in this play that you can control.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss