Wow, thanks everyone. I am so encouraged to have logged on and find such thoughtful advice. Today is my 37th birthday and I spent it with my kids and brother. I got a text from my husband that said "Happy Birthday." We have been out of town for 3 days, I may be sensitive but that seems like even his text is passive aggressive.
labug- thanks, I will check out the other forums. Wasn't sure if it was WAS or midlife crisis. Makes sense what you said about therapy. She has basically said that I have been the identified "patient" in our relationship. He likes to seem perfect and had me to project things onto. I am doing individual therapy as well, and getting so much stronger. Setting boundaries with the things he is allowed to say to me. I asked him in the beginning if this was going to throw him off, but of course he said no.
Queen- Please tell me any insight you have on passive aggressive people? Can they change? Anything info would be useful at this point.
Accuray- I agree, I have questioned it many times myself. I will keep it on the forefront of my mind, but he denies anything with anyone.
He is currently living in a separate part of the house. I have asked him to move out because it is too emotionally draining for me to have him here and try to act "as if" I am doing ok with everything. I also thought that if he moved out he would miss the kids and I more. Any thoughts or advice?
Thanks so being so welcoming to a newcomer!
M 37, H 37 M 10, T 12 S 4 D 2 3/14/12 ILYBNILWY 4/2/12 H consults a L, files nothing 4/26/12 H moves to his new place
