Thank you for responding. I have read many of your thoughts to others. You offer very interesting insites. I have tried not to dwell on the affair angle too much. We live in a small community. It would be almost impossible to concile. But I do have doubts at times. I have been in contact with the exwife, yes exwife, and she told me that two years ago her husband and my wife were texting each other daily, sometimes twice, for four months. I asked my wife about it. She admitted it and and said she was sorry. She knew it was wrong and said she put a stop to it. When i asked what they were talking about she said just light conversation. Im struggling with that. If there is something going on it will come out. My wife is administrator of our local Catholic hospital. I cant believe she would jepordize her career. I have given our separation a certain amount of time. If she doesnt come clean or decides she isnt willing to work on the marriage i will divorce her. I dont want to do it because i love her with all of my heart. But i cant do this forever.
