I called W to work out together what would be best for the kids. I identified some ways that I might try to selfishly steer the decision and tried (successfully) not to do so. Talking about it didn't really bring a clear decision out, and things got a little strained. But then I said it might be a good time to start taking turns, and I am now going to get them from the airport in an hour. I feel like the decision-making process went well and we ended up agreeing that this is best. Talked to my boss this morning and she knows that I will be on and off Dad duty, and I'll make up the time/effort/commitment when W has the kids for when I can't give 100% at work. She understands and is supportive.
25, I can't tell you how much I appreciate your gift of attention, experience, and care. I don't have time right now for an adequate response to your posts, but I want to say that your personalized messages to me are beginning to penetrate and maybe take root. I am humbled by your love for me, essentially a stranger. I promise that I will take your words to my heart. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
