Jks - I had a similar conversation with my H. How he was struggling with ending his A, even with me knowing...blah, blah, blah.
Just know there is nothing you can say that will make him want to work on your M. He has to come to that conclusion himself. I think you need to focus on you now and what changes/180s you want to make for you. Trust me, if you're consistent, your H will notice.
And one other piece if advice - Stop talking to him about your R. It only ends up making you (me too) feel bad and anxious.
