Oooops! Got your ages mixed up. Just read your thread. I find it difficult on this board to respond here or over on yours. You have been thru a lot. My h. and I are both on 2nd m. we both have two kids, but it has never been a problem. They are all grown now. My. H. was a good stepdad for many years. Plus kids' dad was always in picture. Your h. seems to be all over the place. I'm too new at this to give advice, but their are great people here. Hang in!
