My H left nearly 2 months ago and swears there is no OP. I have heard rumors and have an idea of who it might be. And when I "let myself go there" I actually slept better. All those awful things my H said about why he HAD to leave - I failed as a wife, I'm a terrible mother because I fed my kids chicken nuggets, I never brought him iced tea when he mowed the lawn, etc, etc, etc - they didn't feel like the real reason he left anymore. Because it's not the reason why he left - it's the excuse why he left. He needs an excuse to leave and make me the bad guy otherwise he's the bad guy and that doesn't fit his image. Besides, now that he knows (and I actually told him 2 months before he left that I would never leave him, no matter what) that I am standing for our marriage, he really looks like the bad guy leaving his wife and 3 kids. So keep in mind he's trying to convince himself, along with you but that doesn't make it the truth.
Keep strong!
Me: 42 H: 44 M: 17 1/2 T: 19 1/2 S: 14 D: 10 D: 8 Dog: 16-17 (very old & H's responsibility, live w/ me) 1st Bomb (I need space): 2/3/12 2nd Bomb (ILYBNILWY): 2/11/12 Moved out: 2/12/12
