I sort of came to this conclusion overnight but it really helps to hear it from someone else.
I'm still trying to treat my H as if he is a normal, rational husband and father - the man I used to know.
He isn't, and as much as it hurts to take him out of the equation - even in regards to the children - that's what I have to do if I want my life to get better.
To be honest, I think that I have been trying to show him that there are severe consequences to his decision to move out on us.
His kids, particularly his D16, were one of the focus points of his life before this, and I guess I wanted him to see what terrible impact he was having.
I was also still trying to reach out to him as my spouse - in dealing with the sadness and confusion that's hit me in respect of D16's behaviour changes.
And I'm also just plain sick of him saying that the kids are fine and everything is better for everybody concerned now that he has moved out.
This is point-scoring, not compassion, and it's come back to bite me.
