Hi Wendy! So glad you're in your own bedroom. I never left mine, and even redecorated it. H moved into the spare room. I refer to 'our' room, as 'my' room now. The "our" thing was hard to lose, and I kept correcting myself (felt guilty for some reason), but I don't anymore. He made his choice. I am pretty detached now, and expect to get over my M quickly since the last 26 years has been very rocky. We had lots of good times, but far more bad times. I felt that my whole married life, I was waiting around for him ... to come home, to do right, to hear me, etc. Never happened, except on the rare occasion.
Anyway, don't let the OW get to you. Perhaps you should report her to whatever authority she reports to, but only if you have evidence.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim