If H chooses OW, I think he would most definitely want to get D'd though. I think he would feel completely insane and stupid if he made us go through all of that... custody, finances, who gets what... and then once it was over and done with he turns around and decides, "hmmmm, I don't really want to be with OW anymore. Will you take me back?" I can't see that happening. I don't see how it would be ok for us to continue this way... where he continues to see her and sleep with her while he's still married to me and I don't know whether he would either. He knows I have huge values concerning this and it is not moral for a person to do that to their spouse.
Getting caught is one thing, but continuing on is another. So I really do think it is a matter of him deciding one way or the other now. And, personally, I don't think a man can live with trying to live both lives. With him being on the fence, I'm sure he's just as miserable as I am. He wants to start his life with someone, he doesn't want to be in this limbo stage for another 2-3 months. This is why I would say another 2-3 weeks.
I could be very wrong. This is just how my thought process has been lately.
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.
