Thanks snodderly! You're insights and inputs are so valuable and right on.
Im still thinking about inviting him, and will make my decicion in a few days. Im not sure if Im ready for it the more I think about it. After really starting to understand MLC better and what they're going through, part of me wants to be his friend. But then again the personal hell I've been put through due to the MLC makes me just want to stand back where it's safe too.
I appreciate your take on the behaviors and how they can get worse during MLC. See the PA behavior did grow by leaps and bounds when he started feeling ignored and unimportant 6 years ago. Then that just snow balled into about a dozen other things. I've been able to look back at things differently lately and now see how things changed but mainly how he changed. Boy that PA behavior stands no chance of penetrating when they're mad! I was expected to read his mind, do all the emotional work for the both of us, and keep him happy without him even throwing me a bone for heaven's sake! I got nothing but ridiculed and scorned when I didn't do that and was told " Look Im not that hard to figure out. Couldn't you tell the way I was acting was just a cry for help?" Uh....actually no I couldn't! How on earth do you help a person that acts like an 8 year old child throwing a tantrum? LEAVE THEM ALONE. That's what I did because that's how he acted all the time. Yet that was taken as me abandoning him by not giving in to his moods. Even when I did give in and try to conncet with him that still wasn't good enough.
Land sakes alive....Yes all the negative traits come out 10 fold during MLC. His Pa behavior, temper, depressive side, and inmature side when completely ballistic!
