D16 is acting out with oppositional behaviours and poor school performance.
Tonight she expressed disdain about having to attend her brother's football season launch tomorrow afternoon/evening (i.e. watching a game, having a sausage sizzle).
H, who was at home with us at the time, said "why can't she stay at home?"
I took him to another room and filled him in on some of the problem behaviours she's been exhibiting lately that have led to me not wanting to leave her alone at home. The main one being that if I say she is not allowed to go somewhere, she sometimes just says "You can't stop me" and walks out of the house.
H accused me of being too soft on her, and when I asked what he thought I should do, he replied that I should simply lock the doors after she leaves.
When I pointed out that I couldn't lock a 16-year-old out of the house overnight, he just said that she needed a dose of reality and should be made to suffer the consequences of her decisions.
He got very angry and talked a lot about her behaviour with boys, and stated that she should come and live with him, as I was clearly not coping well with her rudeness and poor school performance.
Now, my H rents a room from a single male friend who is in his 40s. This guy lists the single entry: 'women' under the category, 'Interests' on his Facebook page.
My D16 should occupy another rented room in this house that functions as a flop house for itinerant men from the mining industry????
Give me strength.
Surely this is not appropriate? And under the supervision of a father who thinks locking her out of the house at night is a good lesson in life skills.
Any opinions about what I can do? To me, he seems to have gone completely nuts.
