Hi, anyhope, sorry you had a messed up day, yesterday. You know, it has only been about nine months since the ILYBNIL speech. It seems to you like a lifetime, but, it's still relatively new. I am glad to see you have been able to stand firm with not allowing him to move in with you, since he has done nothing to work on himself, and doesn't seem to get that he even needs to do so. You know, what you said here, about never feeling good enough in his eyes, nor valued enough by him, have you considered letting him know some of these things? He seems really clueless, and when he doesn't seem to understand why you don't just jump for joy at the thought of him wanting you back, maybe writing these things down for him to see, would give him something to mull over. Honestly, he seems to be missing the compassion gene, but got an overabundance of the poor little me gene.
I think you are doing the right thing, anyhope, don't you? He has had ow until a few weeks ago, at least he says so. Who knows what is really going on? You wouldn't want to go back to the same old situation, would you? Really, if you two did reconcile now, what would have changed? It's understandable if you considered it, though, because you are hurting so much. One thing, he calls crying to you when he is hurt, that shows he knows you are a compassionate person.
