I am still dealing with reconciling the difference between an EA and a PA and the different "variations" of them...
A lot of this stems from trust...
I trusted my W... I trusted my friends... and in my mind... my imagination... once that veil of trust disappeared, it was easy to come to conclusions and make assumptions...
I have and may never have closure in my mind around what may or may not have happened with my W and one of at least three "friends"...
But what I have done is made a choice on what I plan to do with my life, with or without my W, and move forward...
The best I can offer is to make a choice and create a plan...
either let the idea of a potential EA go... which might be difficult because you sound like you may still be struggling with trust issues from your W's prior A...
or decide to DB or simply move on with your life, without your W...
Yes, I can imagine it is difficult with a young child. I know it's been difficult making choices for me with a D9 and D14 and the consequences to them...
But in the end, unless you are "attractive" to your W... it is possible that she may choose to look elsewhere...
DB and become a better you and possibly become more attractive for your W to make a choice to work with you on the M...
or...
work through the emotions and do the work to move forward with your life...
maybe not real helpful, but as I said, it's all I can offer at this time...
