punkin, I agree w/everyone else 100%...don't accept the situation as it is right now. Fight for what is rightfully yours in the way of alimony. If the figures are incorrect, they need to be corrected as soon as possible.
I have to agree w/Beatrice's posting about the rage. As long as life is going their way, they are okay. However, the minute you question or challenge them, the rage becomes very evident towards you. They want to be in control and dictate the way everything should fall in place per them.
Does it ever end? Unfortunately, I do not believe so. A dear elderly lady once told me that as long as my xh is alive, he will always be a part of my life. Why? She said he will never be able to fully let go of me because I am the only strong thread left in his ball of yarn. You know what? I believe she is correct. The only way to deal w/the mlcer is to live our life to the fullest extent and when they send postcards to you, read them and then drop them in the trash.
Punkin, once your alimony issue is resolved, I don't think you will have many more issues w/him. Hopefully he will hop on his train and head out of town.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
