I totally understand your disappointment. But right now both hers and your ideas on this come from thinking what will be. Your W thinking she might not be ready by X date only means she is not ready now. She doesn't know how she will feel in the future. Either do you.
So when these thoughts of what will be, what next, ect happen, this creates anxiety. Anxiety is usually cause by unanswerable questions. You can't keep her from thinking this way, but you can control your own thinking. If you focus on this unknown scenerio, you will project an anxiety now. What you can do is stay off that path, and stay in the present. Focus on the positives now, and let those radiate back to her.
And by X date who knows. But don't discount all the time you have inbetween to make a difference. Use it all. Enjoy it. Make it as good as you can.
Peace.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
