Behind anger lies one or more of these 3 things, fear, hurt, or frustration. I believe all of them are present in the ML'er. When my ex's mother died, he started to become very fearful of other's abandoning him. He saw me having a good life and getting ahead in my career. I think he felt it was just a matter of time before I left like his mother. His mother also left him at the age of 12 and moved to another state to live. They never appropriately learned how to deal with these emotions, thus the regression into another world. That is my theory on my sitch and perhaps others. The reason my ex is so angry with me all of the time is his perceived abandonment by me. I do stress the word perceived. His fantasy of me worshipping the ground he walked on 24 hours a day did not happen, thus justifying his anger.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
