I thought I'd lived the fairy tale romance. Met him 3 days after my 15th birthday, moved in together second year university, married at 25, children when I was 31 and 34. Then at 41.. I don't love you. I never loved you. We don't work. I don't care if I ever, ever, ever, ever, see you again. I can't live here anymore. I will throw myself in a river. I will die a slow death if I have to live here. I was never able to be me. I need out. Let me go. If you want me to be happy let me go.
Wow. This has persisted for over a month. I didn't see it coming but in retrospect, I think he's been mulling it over for months or years! By the time he tells me, he's villainized me, rewritten our past. He doesn't want to try just one more time with me knowing how he feels.
I need help. There is much more to the story, but any support will be welcome. Lately I've stopped pleading and begging and everything seems normal if I treat him well. He has not left the house. No one really knows. But he has left the bedroom and doesn't touch me at all. Very business-like in ways. But even friendly if I don't talk about R. Doesn't want to go anywhere with me alone, but if he does, he wants to come home early. When he goes out on his own, he's out past midnight and often until after 2, even 4. Says there is no OW.
???? If there is no OW, or even if there is, once he has muttered all of those words, what are the chances he might just change his mind? If I'm nice, well-behaved, start to follow the things he's always asked me to do? Tried the DB approaches, but went too hard core on them and he thought I was acting 'weird.' Started trying a more loving approach with him to normalize our interactions and he seems to respond to this a little better. Help!
