Approximately 15 months ago (December 2010) my wife found out that I was involved with another women. My affair was 4 weeks old when this happened and the affair hadn't gotten to the point were it was physical; however, if my wife would have not caught me the affair was surely headed toward becoming physical. I immediately ended my affair with the other woman, and begged for my wife to forgive me. My wife was extremely hurt as one could imagine, but I was grateful for her strength. My wife decided that our marriage and family are important enough to get through this difficult time. we made a committment to each other and we had one counseling session with our friend and Pastor. Unfortunately, I had to go away on a military deployment just a couple of day after our counseling session, in fact when my wife found out about my affair I was away in training and was onoly able to come home for 4 days before I had to leave once again. My being away proved to be of no help as it was during my many months away that my wife decided to divorce me. I came home on a 15 day leave in August 2011 and that is when my wife told me that she wanted a divorce. I went into complete panic mode, which completely backfired. Up until this point I was under the impression that we were still very much in marriage saving mode. It was at this point I found the Divorce Remedy. I read it and made a plan to save my marriage on my own knowing my wife didn't want to save our marriage. I finally came home in December 2011 and immediately went to work applying the techniques I had learned about in the Divorce Remedy. I was sleeping in a different room. I was patient and things started to change. We started going out and hanging out in the house doing everything together and having fun together. It got to the point that my wife initiated sex. I was completely amazed that we had gotten this far in just one month of me being home. It was now February 2012 when my wife went away for work for a weekend and did something to raise my suspicion that there was someone else in her life. I confronted her with kid gloves about it and she absoluetly exploded. Needless to say my wife ended our hanging out and ended our sexual activity. Again, I found myself back at square one. I kept applying the techniques but I saw almost no progress. I began to wonder more and more if there was another person in her life, so I asked her. She then told me that there was another man that was interested in her and that in fact she too was very interested in this other man. This hit me hard and became physically sick. It was almost as if she was proud of this fact. At this point I thought that it was just that, an interest without action. I decided to go to work on saving my marriage with more determination. At this point my wife was spending very little time at home and was staying over a grilfriends house. I grew more suspicious because of this and asked her once again about this guy she is interested in and how far it had gone. At this point she was minimizing her involvment and it was very apparent. Well, she finally told me that she had in fact been talking with this man for several months now and went on to tell me that she was fully justified in doing so because of what I had done and that she would continue even though no divorce papers had been filed. I had never felt so disrespected. She not only matched what I had done but was in fact proud of it and throwing it in my face. To top it off my wife was free to come a go all while I provide for her cancer recovering mother who lives with us. Yesterday, I decided I would no longer stand idle while she continued with this other man. I told her she would have the weekend to move herself and her mother out and that I would be at my brother's house with our 3 sons for the weekend to give her ample time to move out. Apparently she will be staying at her girlfriend's house. Ths was not at all easy, it hurts to kick someone you care and love about out of my home, but I reached my breaking point. The level of disrespect is beyond what I could endure. After all this, I'm still of the mind that if she came to me at anytime and told e that she wanted to give us another go and the other man was out of the picture, with proof, I would ,without hesitation, hit the ground running to save my marriage and rebuild our love.
