I didn't see it coming...but now I see everything

[breakdownbill]

Thanks YC

That reply from you really cheered me up. At the time when my sister called I was like, 'oh please don't say anything to me that might screw things up for us, because they were going so well'. But you're right, I was thinking about my R and my W's feelings and there was absolutely no way I was going to leave the room to let her feel like I was discussing our R.

I feel so much better, not just because of my W's reaction last night, but because she seen 1st hand, just how much she means to me and that when I say that I won't have anyone say a bad word about her. I mean it!

It was a definitive action, not just words. Some on here might say I've been pursuing this week. I was prepared to let my W go, because I love her so much and had she told me that she wants to be with the OM I wouldn't have stood in her way. I've learned truly that if you can forgive yourself and realise that we are only here for a short while, you enjoy every minute.

Everytime I make love to my wife I think it may be the last time and I give myself fully, no fear of anything, just a desire to satisfy my wife and let her know how beautiful she is. That's always been my problem in the past worrying about not satisfying my wife and overthinking things. I realise you just have to let go of your inhibitions and give yourself fully, to truly connect to your spouse.

I think a lot of us on here have been so insecure in the past, that we ended up here.

YC your H is weak right now, I know how he feels, but he's got to snap out of it. The more relaxed you are around your H, the less anxiety he will feel.

He needs help, but he's got to find himself first. Everyday you get stronger, stronger for YOU! When the penny drops for him and you do start putting your Marraige together, the best advice I can give you is to not put any pressure on yourself, let things happen naturally and flirt without the fear of rejection.

YC I know you are a good woman and you'll get there. I'm not taking anything for granted and I will be as patient as I need to be, responding to my W and trying subtle new things here and there.

I really need to buckle down and get my UNI work done, 6 weeks and lots to do. I'm sure I'll have more highs and lows before then. But I'm loving life again, and when you experience the real lows, you fully enjoy the highs in life.

Take care & keep your spirits up YC

Bill