Jeez, this stuff is never simple! Saw a divorce financial planner. He said my h. didn't compute something right about his retirement. I means 26K in my favor. Also guy rec. I get 4 more years of spousal support. Told h. he's not too happy with this (me). Anyway he said his lawyer said he was computing it right. Waiting to hear from f. planner about what he said. I hope we can work this out before it gets messy. So will have to wait till Monday to hear back. Going to try not to think about and stay busy packing.
