Hey Golf Mom, I wanted to thank you for posting that link. I went to it and that's something I really needed to hear.
I have Jed Diamonds Irritable Male Syndrome book. He went through Irritable Male Syndrome and it caused some big problems in his marriage. And he's a psychologist!
This really helps me to understand where things did start to go wrong in my marriage, and it's just as I suspected. He started feeling very neglected and abandoned when my attention got diverted away from him.