I'm sorry you are here NG. You're sitch is very new and there is no easy way to sugar coat it... it's gonna sukk for awhile.
I do not think it's impossible to DB whilst going through the divorce process.. it's definitely hard because the likelyhood of your w responding in a positive way most likely won't happen... until it's over....
... which is very draining when you are watching your life crumble in front of you.
However if you can stay focused on YOUR changes and how YOU want to act in the outcome.. you will come out the otherside.. better than before.
I promised that I would honor my vows until the very end. My w spewed venom and confusion, she has taken money, tried to kick me off of her insurance. She has cried, yelled, baited, guilted.. you name it.
But I refuse to retaliate. I refuse to take my pain and anger and express it.
Does my w see it? I don't know... I don't care. It's more about me. About who I want to be.
Who do you want to be in this process. When it's over - who is woman staring back at you in the mirror?
Will it be a woman you can be proud of? Will it be someone who "loved" to the best of her ability? Will it be a woman only a fool would leave?
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
