Husband left me...feel hopeless

[Accuray]

I feel I deserve someone who is going to love me all the time and not question his feelings.

There is no question that we all want this. In order to get that, we have to work for it (i.e. "The Five Love Languages"). I have no doubt that you deserve it.

I don't think I could have this go on for 4 months, with no sign of progress in our R...

We all have a point where we decide to stop trying -- and that's OK. You can either decide up front how long you're willing to live like this, or go day by day or week by week and occasionally re-evaluate.

In terms of how long you can take it, I can offer this:

1) People cope very well, it's one of the things that people do the best

2) You are stronger than you think

3) It gets easier as time passes and you begin to accept what is your new reality. Time is your friend.

You are a good person -- even if this doesn't work out, you will find love and happiness in your life. To the degree you can work on your own issues, understanding of what long term relationships take, etc., you can further ensure your success. You will come out of this much more savvy than the average 27 year-old (or 45 year old for that matter), but better prepared to have a happy marriage, and much more realistic about what it takes.

--Accuray