Thank you for all of the advice and wisdom. I must sound like a broken record, but I'm really having a hard time accepting that this is my life. Ironically, my husband doesn't seem to care about the money. He actually has offered to pay more than required by law. Yet one of the reasons he said he has been so unhappy is due to our lack of money. So what do I make of that? I guess I was also hoping that once I was employed he would slow everything down and re-think his decision. I still don't know if there is someone else in the picture. He has denied that. When he left his first wife 25 years ago there was no OW. They were having financial trouble due to a job loss and he suddenly decided to leave her on Christmas Eve (he left me in December also). Their marriage was also good, except for the finances. In the last year he old me that our marriage was perfect except for the finances. He clearly has a money trigger, especially at Christmas time. I've seen it every year around the holidays. BTW, after his wife filed for divorce and he moved 3000 miles away he called her wanting to reconcile, but she said it was too late. I just don't get this. He's going to have very little money and between support payments and my new salary I'm going to be fine. So is money really a problem for him or an excuse for whatever else is going on between his ears?
