Golf Mom, This is very typical lanaguage of a mlcer. Don't trust one word that comes out of his mouth. Run, do not walk to your lawyer and have him/her draw up the paperwork as soon as possible concerning the house.
As for the comment about you screwing him over...I hate to say this, but he said that so that you will play nice during the proceedings. GM, you can't play nice now that he's tossed the gauntlet down. It is no longer a "martial relationship", but a "business relationship". You will need to ensure that you get everything that you and your children are entitled to. Do not accept smaller child support payments, do not agree to take on all of the joint debt. Any debt that he incurred, he will be responsible for. Also, set your boundaries early for visitation and stick to them. Any changes to the schedule should be discussed at least 2-3 days in advance, not last minute. One of the things that they like to do is just walk into your residence, don't allow this. Have him knock or ring the bell as this is now your home, not his.
GM, it's going to get worse before it gets better and that's why we are all here to support you. You are going to have to develop a very thick skin because he's going to say and do things that you never imagined. Why? Because once your lawyer begins advising/protecting you, your h is not going to be happy w/the consequences of his actions. Money is the key and when it hits them that they have to dish out a lot of money, they get ugly. Money is a status symbol to them and they want to keep it all and not share it w/you or the children. Do not expect him to own up to his responsibilities and above all else, keep your expectations a zero. This man is no longer your friend right now.
Hang in there. We are here to support you any way that we can.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
