Wendy, If you will go back through your older postings, you will see that I advised you quite a while ago to reclaim your bedroom and put him in the guest room. I know...you weren't ready then to rock the boat, so to speak. He's enjoying the comforts of a room that you decorated while you are in a room that you don't feel comfortable in. He needs to have a taste of what I call the "consequences of his actions". It's time that you set some boundaries that you, not him, are comfortable with.
He's been gone emotionally for quite some time and I would venture to say that he really doesn't participate w/the family in many things. His mind is elsewhere and w/the ow returning to the island in a few months, he will only get worse w/his comments and demands.
I am so sorry that you are going through this, but you are learning more about yourself as you walk the path. The most important person right now is YOU. Please do whatever it takes to find peace for yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
