I didn't see it coming part 2

[breakdownbill]

I thought it was time to start a new thread as things are changing in my sitch as I change.

here's a link to my 1st part

I didn't see it coming part 1

Well I'm glad to say that I passed my 1st real test of detaching. Instead of worrying about what my W was doing last night I did some reading on the DB book.

My W even came home early last night, we talked and it was nice. I asked her if she'd caught up with her steps and how her friends were all doing. There was absolutely none of me feeling or acting like a victim & there hasn't been since Sunday.

This morning I was really comfortable talking to my W about her dancing (neither of us mentioned OM). Her friend called round so they could go out for coffee, while W was getting ready I made her friend feel welcome & was having a laugh & a joke about dancing with her, which my W joined in for about 5 mins before they left. I wished them a good time & said I'd see my W later for S6 Easter service.

I am proud of myself for my behaviour & positive attitude this week. I am going to continue to build on this & not get drawn into any more R talk for a good while yet.

I feel so much better, I'm sleeping and eating well again, taking exercise, dressing well and keeping busy. This week I've noticed girls 10 years younger than me giving me that second look & even caught a couple who gave me a shy smile. That was a real shot in the arm confidence wise.

I'm just about to go for a run & then do some more UNI work, today is a good day, I'm going to make the most of it.

Thank you DB'rs for keeping my spirits up these past few weeks. I owe you big time!!

Bill