Wendy that will make you insane, him saying to you what he says, doing what he does, then wants you to sit and watch tv with him like nothing is wrong and then openly talk about divorce?
Hun this is why you're needing the anti anxiety meds, this is getting to be too much. If you want to reclaim your room then by golly go and get it. Send him to the guest room.
Now maybe this is where I am not a good example of standing, but I think you need to set some boundaries with him! Tell him you're taking your room back and why! He's treating you like an object that has no feelings by acting nice one minute, nasty the next, then talking about the divorce like it's as normal as grocery shopping! This is where I don't agree with some of the 180's. We're to set all these feelings aside and detatch, and still take this? I say detatch, but still stand firm in your boundaries. Everyone deserves RESPECT and BOUNDARIES. I firmly believe that detatching and acting as if nothing doesn't bother us and we're fine with everything actually can give them the idea it's ok to keep treating us like they do...cause gee nothing seems to bother us! They can keep acting this way and getting away with it, what are we going to do?
Im not suggesting opening a can of Whoop Ass and go ballistic on him ( though he deserves it, and you might actually feel alot better..lol!) but stand firm and let your needs and boundaries be KNOWN. This can be done calmly,kindly, but firm. It might help the anxiety, and surely help that self esteem.
