Husband left me...feel hopeless

[ben11]

Wow, masters degree. Impressive.

I would definitely suggest a cooking class. Not only do you get to eat better meals, but I find cooking a fun way to get together with people. I've had friends over and cooked breakfast rather than going to a restaurant. Cooking's a lot more enjoyable when what you make turns out well

Sounds like you're on the right track. It's painful, no question. While I definitely knew some of my W's complaints about our marriage, she too said I was an awesome guy, and she'd be crazy to let me go completely. It's very confusing to hear. If it really is him simply needing to figure things out as to why he's unhappy, I guess its just more reason to let him figure it out on his own. Maybe you finding your happiness through the GALing will rub off on him, and he'll want what you have.

Have you tried talking with the MC as to advice he/she may have? I find I email our MC before I do anything anti-DB to get some advice from someone who knows a lot more about marriage than I, and someone who actually knows BOTH sides of the story (unlike us here on the board who only hear the one side)