Keeping the Kids Out of It

[PrincessP]

I'm a complete wreck. I am freaked out that he is going to start hiding assets (his income which is triple mine.) My H is a big shot in his profession. I am 100% opposed to divorce. At the same time, there is not much more I can do to protect myself financially. I have done everything that is possible without filing for "maintenance." NJ is a no-fault state.

I am very fearful he is going to amass money so he can turn around and try to buy me out of the house. It's not about the darn house, I'm not emotionally attached to it. What bothers me is this maneuver combined with H's continued manipulation of D4. I fear him taking over the house with his mistress (and folks, let's call the OP what they are. If you are legally and emotionally still married then this is adultery) and playing family with my D4 during her visits with him. Yes, I do sound like I am throwing in the towel, but I am not exclusively dealing with my H; the mistress is influencing him and feeding into his anger towards me.

I have a dear friend who lived in a shelter with her two boys because of the financial devastation Ds can cause the unsuspecting S (or LBS.)