The advice on this topic has been right on. I kept my house and worked through the lawyer to do so. My ex wanted to get rid of the thing as soon as possible. He now spews about how he should have never let it go and what a mistake it was for him to do so. I had to get his name off the loan 6 months after the divorce. So I refinanced at that time. My ex thought that he would eventually recover the house because I would not be able to keep the yard up or pay the mortgage. He was wrong and is livid about that to this day. I know you are in a lot of pain regarding how your H is treating you. Look at everything right now as a business arrangement. Protect yourself and know that he will not be returning to planet earth for a good long time.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
