Husband left me...feel hopeless

[hopingandpraying]

I understand the whole point behind making him wait and miss me, but I'm just so scared that he won't miss me and that he will just keep distancing himself more. However, I am going to go dark and back off completely.

He is actually staying at our house this coming week (planned like 6 weeks ago) because I'm going out of town and he's staying with the dog. He said he wanted to do it, so I don't know if it will be a good thing or a bad thing. Part of me thinks that being at the house will make him think about the stuff he misses (he's just living at an apt with a blow up mattress, no cable, no internet). Granted I want him to miss me, but maybe it will bring up feelings of missing his whole life in general...who knows??!?!? Can't really change that now.

I am now leaving the dates and talking up to him. I know it will get easier...it's just hard right now.

You are so right about letting him explain why we did or didn't...good call!