ahhh... OK, I understand... yes, you were hoping... rather blindly accepting, that she was actually coming back TO you...
That makes sense and really, it was appropriate...
IDK... I think everyone at some time in an R will look at others and compare themselves to others individually as well as compare their R with that of others...
We may also question from time to time whether we want to be with the person we are with, or if there is someone else that (at least momentarily) catches our eyes...
The IDK part is... IDK what value people get from that. I've done it myself, but I have hardly ever regretted being with my W. The thoughts were ever, only fleeting for me...
I guess what I'm saying is, given the givens... the last six months of your life with your W is hardly likely different that any other couple... Perhaps hardly different than what your M was prior to the initial BD...
So my question to you, as I would hope someone would question me if I end up in another intimate R with someone... is, what have you done to keep the changes going?
IOW, did your W come back and you sighed relief and then things got back to "normal", or did you keep working on yourself and your R with your W?
If the former, then now is your chance to change that...
If the latter, then either she could be a fool... or she's just not "feeling the love", yet... keep working on it...
As you said, you don't necessarily know your W's intentions or feelings. As you know, you will not be able to prise that info out of her... she will have to share it, willingly... spontaneously... however and whenever...
Until she does that, it might be a really, really good time to...
Get back to DB basics...
Makes sense?
And it's good to read your update. Truly, it sounds good and you are at a bump. No need to get paranoid about it... Just get to work because it is possible that you are at worst where many people SHOULD be, when the come to DB... rather than when we are on our last legs or rather, when our legs have been chopped out from under us...
