well a bit of a positive day yesterday. Early in the morning W calls. She says shes not really calling for a particular reason.She talks about how she misses the kids and i say again i know what you mean. She then starts asking me if i just act like i dont hate her because of the kids. i say no i could never hate you.
she says she doesnt understand, if our situation was reversed she would be devastated she says how do you stay so calm and cool? you should teach a class (if she only knew what a wreck i am most of the time huh).she said i guess thats a gift you have. I tell her shes gifted at alot of things. she said she doesnt feel that way that she feels like a bad person. she sounds sad and then says "i miss you guys". so i said again if you want to do a family game night let me know, she didnt say anything.
About a week ago she mentioned taking the kids to family counseling and said maybe it would be good for her too. So during the phone convo i told her i heard of a good C from a friend that was doing pre-marriage counseling and thought the guy was great plus said he did family couseling as well.she said that sounded good.that was about it for the phone call.
so yesterday afternoon I called the C and talked to him and he is pro-marriage and familiar w DB. he said the first session would be just me and W. I told him quickly of our sitch and what i want .
C said that in the first session he will talk about the ramifications of a D on kids and ask us if the D is definitley happening (whew that kinda makes me nervous).he says if it turns in to MC then he will put that hat on and go with it. If not then it becomes the kids and thats who he would be seeing for the next multiple sessions. So we have an appt tmrw at 9 and im starting t get nervous. told the W and she said she would be there at 9.
