Divorce....with a side of crazy...

[imthemom]

So,My L sent me a copy of our response to his purposal, for me to go over and make any changes...Im decideing if I want he to add anything about the comments he is making to S15..told her I would get back to her on Monday.

As far as how Im handleing it with S15...this may sound crazy to some of you but I came up with something and tried it this morning...it went over really well so I think Im going to continue it. when S15 starts telling me things his D has said, or starts makeing negative comments about his D, Ive told him Im not going to talk about his D with him...but then it just feels negative and S15 just sits there stewing, so I decided the other day that every time he brought him up or told me a negative comment his D has said about me I was going to then launch into a funny/positive story about his D and I or a story about his D from when he was younger..anything I can think of that would make him laugh or just smile. this morning he made a comment about his D and I immediantly started telling him about how one year I surprised his D and bought airline tickets for him and I to go to his 10 yr reunion in Nebraska. I called his work and let them know he was taking a long weekend and he didnt know till he walked in the door and I had him all packed and my sister there to stay with the kids...its was the funnest weekend we ever had and his D was soooo happy. S15 was laughing and when I dropped him off at school he had a smile on his face, and he wasnt thinking so negatively about his D anymore.
I know I cant fix there relationship and if he makes the choice to continue to bad mouth me theres not a whole lot I can do about it (but trust...if it gets bad I will definatley put a stop to it any way I have to for my sons sake) but I am not going to feed into his anger or lower myself into his mud puddle. Hes on his own there...and I felt great about it so it was a win win....