Does it seem so odd? I think pressure is what causes that. Fear causes pressure. There seems to be a lot of fear in my ex. Fear of what? I don't know, I gave up trying to get in that crazy head a long time ago But even in my professional dealings with people, fear seems to be a powerful motivator. I notice it when somebody doesn't act rationally or gets unnecessarily worked about something. I sense fear in many cases. Then hurt. Then anger.
I think fear heightens the senses. I think when they are not feeling anything toward us, but think they should, they go looking for reasons why. Like everyone, they need a "story" they can live with. Enter the lies. Enter the replaying their life in huge and exacting detail.
Fear is a terrible thing and it's not how we are made. It has its place, but when it gets out of balance all hell breaks loose!
Stress, fear, anger - they seem to go together like a cocktail and the result is a hyper-awareness of things past and present.
In some cases it seems the need for a "story" is so strong, they will re-remember the past in a different way. People can do that. The mind is a powerful thing and it never forgets. It records everything even if we cannot recall it.
Focus plays a part as well. Focus on their part to solve their problem.
On my end, I became very aware of things as well. Stress. Fear. Anger. Same cocktail, but handled differently.
I think the WAS also has to remember things again and again to try and get it right. It's not enough that they re-remember because those memories have feelings associated. If you don't handle the feelings, they'll handle you. If you re-remember something, it won't be dealt with and it will have to be at some point either consciously or sub-consciously.
It's why I always choose to live in the light. I don't hide things. I communicate what I feel and I do it in a way that I think about it first because I'm not willing to damage others on a whim. I will tell it how it is, but not always right away. I guard my tongue
My thoughts and observations at any rate. I'm not a professional. AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
