Keeping the Kids Out of It

[adinva]

That's why you should talk to a L. I'm in the same boat. My H is convinced that we will be divorcing, and he could be moving money for all I know. In my specific case, I don't believe he is and I don't feel like I would care very much if he did. I have a company and a support system and if I had to start over with nothing I could. So it's not worth it to me to get a formal separation agreement right now. In your case maybe you should.

Use lawyers to do the hard stuff rather than you implying that you think your H would steal from you. That's inflammatory coming from you, less so coming from a lawyer since it's more cut-and-dried to them. Normal process to them. I see on here a lot of people get mad at what the lawyers do and take it personally, but there's no way it could be more inflammatory that way than if you hold onto his personal checkbook because you fear he might steal what's rightfully yours. There's no way to say that directly that won't inflame your situation.