Agreed. The personal checking account checks are his (just like my personal checking account checks are mine,) but his liquidating the funds without justifiable cause or to hide money is also my business to know.

I know if I ask him anything it will all go very badly.

M: 39, H: 38
D: 4
Together: 19 Y
Married: 9 Y
Bomb #1: 11/04/11 (5 days b/f anniversary)
Bomb #2 and H left: 01/03/12 (day b/f my bday)
OW: confirmed, they live together already