Regarding your h's things, this is what you told me when I was dealing with a similar situation.

SIAS, yes, the similarity was not lost on me! wink

Many times I respond to issues with other threads because I am working out the same things.

Thanks for the kind words and thoughts.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss