Well Prince, you've stated what you want and what you are willing to do. It will be a long haul as it seems she's medicating her problems with friends and drinking. She married and had a child very young. Maybe she feels like she missed something. She also has a lot of past trauma she seems unwilling to work on right now, which is not uncommon. Have you read much about the fallout from child sexual abuse?

The best you can do is work on yourself take care of your S as best you can. Are you familiar with Henry Cloud and John Townsend? Google them. They have a great book entitled Boundaries that you might find helpful. Some churches offer a class based on their work, you might see if it's offered in your area.

Best of luck.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss