Keeping the Kids Out of It

[PrincessP]

Not sure how to interpret H's actions versus treatment of me. He on occasion goes into our bedroom to change his clothes, even throwing them down the laundry chute now and then. Aside from the big heap of stuff he took initially he takes one or two things at a time but sometimes leaves something else behind. About week or so ago he even took a shower in our bathroom after a haircut appt. He's super friendly with our D4, and continues to tell her he is leaving because he has to work (or the more insane story...going to the moon to get cheese.)

He signs the mortgage checks without much word about it. Although tonight he asked about the taxes and could he have his checkbook. I said that I didn't have his checks at the house and they were at the office. He asked me to bring home a couple of checks for him. Maybe he wants to start paying OW for his share of her rent, or maybe he wants to start squirreling away cash. Oh God, he is finally getting his brain in gear. This is going to get scary isn't it?

As for the way he interacts with me.... Sometimes he will say somethin to me as if I am new acquaintance and is pleasant, most times he scowls in my direction or ignores me like a lamp post. After much deep reflection and critical thinking about what I contributed to our marriage crisis and what he feels I have done to him (the I have been mean to him for our entire relationship) I have replaced the OCD control everything and everyone around me with relaxing nonchalance, the too casual appearance
with glam MILF look, the stern parenting with empathy, etc. Perhaps the little sign of receptiveness on his part are so subtle I don't see them but I worry that they aren't really there at all. Are my 180s too much, too little?

No guarantees, right?