IMO, you've been horribly abused by this woman. It has shaken you to your core and you have scars and wounds that don't really seem to have a chance to heal before she does something again. Yet you're still having to share your kids and the slightest thing will set you off...or salt in wounds.
It's hard when the kids come home and start passing on what the ex has done or said. It also takes time Tad, it just takes time.
Exactly right. I see the same in you, Tad and in myself sometimes (still). It takes time AND effort.
25 speaks wisdom my friend. To add, might I suggest something Kimmerz said about buttons? Jack had something about that - his was along the lines of circuits. But the concept holds.
One at a time or faster, remove the buttons she can push. What 25 is telling you is true - be strong for yourself and your boys. Kimmerz is right as well that you have years of scars and wounds and she continues to wound. But she is crazy Tad. At least toward you. Don't let her have that effect. Remove the buttons she *can* push. Start with the ones you know and then go to the ones that she finds that you forgot about. It will not happen overnight, but it will happen faster as you work on it.
You have tried the rest, right? Try removing the buttons she can press. Try being the strong and life-loving man you know you really are.
Don't be afraid to keep at it and to try until you get it right. Don't be afraid of anything, Tad. Nothing left to be afraid of.
Nothing left but you and the man that can and will be better and stronger than ever before.
Get started Tad. One button at a time...
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
