taking the time to watch the wave

[purgatory]

"after school,, S was asking whether H was staying at our place. he really got upset when i said no. this is the first time he's become so upset to the point of tears. it broke my heart. so i just gave him a hug and told him how much i love him."

My S6 has been saying a few things like this^^^. It breaks my heart and I just want to grab H by the shirt collar and say: "see! It's not just me you're walking away from!" But I hold it all in and just try to give S6 as much love and attention as I can.

If your H is still willing to go to retrovielle, I think that's a small positive (even though he might be dragging his heels through the door) but maybe it wil be a turning point- not saying a R will happen immediately, but maybe it will make him (and you) really think inwards about what type of M you want... Def. will plant some seeds.